My Good Enough

I come from a long line of  fastidious housekeepers.  My mom grew up in Bronx, NY.  My Grandmother kept the windows so clean that my Grandfather actually put his head through the glass once, because he thought the window was open.  Each time my Aunt Kathy moved into a new apartment she would go in and scrub the place from top to bottom before she ever moved one item into the place.  My mother cleaned our bathrooms everyday.  If we had company coming over, which was frequently, the house had to be spotless.  Literally every surface was cleaned within an inch of its life.  And when the company left; the house was gone back over before mom went to bed so it was clean when she got up the next morning.
Needless to say I thought this was not just normal, but mandatory.  When I moved out of my parents house I would clean like a maniac if I was expecting company.  Needless to say I found entertaining to be exhausting & chose not to do it often because it just took too much time to prepare.
Then I got married.  I joined a bible study with 2 other couples.  The couple that hosted the study were remodeling their house & were living in the small basement apartment of their house.  In order to get to the apartment we walked through the construction zone.  The apartment was very small, but we would cook dinner together, do bible study & generally have a wonderful time.  This opened my eyes.  My house didn't have to be perfect in order to be a good hostess.  I found out I absolutely love to entertain.  My husband and I would pick up a bit before friends came over, but the need to scrub the house from top to bottom before each visit was no longer necessary for me.  As long as my house was neat it was good enough.  Clorox wipes helped to make the bathroom good enough.  We began to entertain often.
Then we had kids.  I had to have a new good enough.  Kids seem to require lots of stuff.  It seems to become harder & harder to keep the house clean.  Just keeping up with the day's dishes, laundry & picking up seems to be as far as I can get most of the time.  I get the kitchen wiped down daily or several times a day.  But the dusting and really cleaning just doesn't happen that often.  When I try to do the deep down cleaning then the other stuff gets left undone.  The dishes for that day remain in the sink & the kids toys scattered all over.  However, this doesn't mean I don't entertain.  On the contrary.  I have just needed to decide what is my new good enough.
Some days this is hard for me to answer.  I see the mess of my own house so clearly.  However, when I go to friend's homes I don't notice the condition of their homes.  I go to enjoy their company.  We let the kids play.  The joke has become that my friends are welcome to come over anytime if they are coming to see me.  However, if anyone is coming to see my house they must give me at least 2 weeks notice :)
My mom doesn't not quite grasp this concept.  She will stop by for a visit on the night of bible study at our house & start getting nervous.  She'll look around say something like, "Aren't you having company tonight?"  My answer is usually, "Yes.  I just need to pick up a little bit."  And that is true.  I make sure the sink is cleared of dishes & the kids toys are at least in the general vicinity of where they are kept.  All the pillows are placed on the couch & if time allows I may run the vacuum.  This is my good enough now that I have kids.
What is your good enough?